What does being a Dad mean from the perspective of the family?

A Dad should do this and this and this and
this and this…

It can be a minefield I found to actually define what it means to be a Dad.
Have you ever spoken to those most important to you about what the role of
Dad is for your family unit?

Our research suggests there is still a perception and stigma around what a
Dad should do, and to be honest it’s quite a comprehensive list that shows
no wonder why Dads are feeling more guilt, anxiety and overwhelm – we are
expected to be Mr. Perfect!

Instead of aiming for perfect (we cannot ever achieve this), I found it helpful
to set agreements and expectations with those closest to me – my family –
about what a Dad could and should be doing. It can become overwhelming
to be ourselves if we continue to take such levels of expectations from others.
What do our friends expect?

To be available socially once a week.
What do our wider family expect?

To call three times a week and make sure they get to where the need to be
What do school parent expect?

To be there for drop off and pick up and to be and ‘active parent’
What does society expect?

To be the breadwinner, overworked, grafting and exhausted?
If we continue to look at all the external voices it’s no wonder we get so
overwhelmed. So sit down with the closest family unit and have an open
conversation and set expectations around it.

Set the goal of this conversation to define what a Good Enough Dad looks like
for your family unit. It’s a refreshing perspective and the only one that really
matters.